It’s a (Not So) Wonderful Married Life

Marriage is hard y’all. I mean like gut-wrenching, heart breaking, flat out hard! There’s a reason so many marriages end in divorce. Before you’re all like, “Girl, this is already depressing!”, let me tell you a little about the reason behind the name of this blog!

When I first decided to do this I shared my ideas to a handful of friends. One of them proclaimed, “But it’s not always a wonderful married life!”. I whole heartedly agreed with her and explained it was a somewhat of a play on words. 

Let’s just break down this word. Wonder+ful. Meaning full of wonder. One of the definitions of wonder is to feel surprise. Raise your hand if your spouse has surprised you in a good or bad way. Congratulations! You are in a wonder filled marriage! (cyberspace high five)

The most recognized definition of wonderful is “inspiring delight, pleasure, or admiration; extremely good; marvelous”. This is what we think of when we hear the word wonderful. However, many of us have felt like our marriage is anything EXCEPT wonderful. There are times when you WONDER what you were thinking when you married this person sitting across from you that makes the strangest noises when they eat, times when you WONDER why they’re so stubborn, times when you WONDER why you ever married them in the first place, and then there are times you WONDER how you could ever live without them. 

David and I have often wondered about these things and more when we look at each other. People that are acquainted with us many times get the misleading idea that we have it all together. But once people get to know us a little more they find out our marriage is far from perfect. We struggle just like everyone else. God taught us to be transparent in our marriage years ago. See when we as a society are open and honest with one another about our shortcomings and imperfections we realize we are not alone. It takes away any hold the enemy has over us. We understand others are fighting for their marriage just like we are. 

If you’re going through a tough spot in your marriage, you are not alone. The grass is NOT greener on the other side. Hold on! Keep going! Don’t stop! Because the true wonder of marriage comes in the perseverance and overcoming spirit you maintain through the difficult places in your marriage. 

Note: This post is about difficult times in marriage, not abuse. If you are in an abusive relationship, please get help. If you would like prayer for any reason in your marriage, please email us and we will gladly put you on our prayer list.